Monday, April 25, 2011

For Better and For Worse .... April 26th ...... Fifty Years Later !

The clip below has already appeared in an earlier post ... May 1st , 2010 ..... however , I believe it merits being viewed once again to highlight somewhat historically today's main topic .... my parents' 50th wedding anniversary in 1983. 
I found this clip from he Evening Times Globe among my Mom's belongings shortly after her death in 1993. It gives a rather amusing blow by blow description of a combined shower-stag party thrown for my soon-to-be-married parents by their friends... two of whom are still alive today .... Alma Butler-Scott , my Mom's bridesmaid at almost 103 years of age and Alma Joyce of the West Side , an almost centenial friend of both my parents at 98. For years to come they would be frequent guests at our home in Pokiok. I believe this party was held sometime in early April , 1933 as my folks were married at Saint Peter's on April , 26th ... the feast of Our Lady of Good Counsel.




It didn't take God's 5th commandment to convince or urge me to honour my Mom and Dad ... my feelings for them went beyond honour .... I loved my parents and still think of them often. I left home when I was a young boy but wherever I was in the world between 1950 and 1993 I would always manage to get a card in the mail well ahead of time and then get on the horn and call them on April , 26th ... their wedding anniversary !



  Gerard McElwaine , Dad , Mom , Alma Butler-Scott
Mom , Alma and Walter Scott
Dad, Kevin , Josie and Denis McNulty
Katherine Doyle and Aunt Agnes Johnston seated with Frank Doyle , Kevin McNulty and Charlotte Johnston standing.


Rebekah and I placed a lily at the grave this morning ..... Tuesday April 26th , 2011................Requiescant in pace !

13 comments:

  1. dear Gerard,

    I loved Josie & Tanker too!

    I think of them often these days. your parents were a special breed: loving, loyal, committed, fun loving and honest.

    they will NEVER die!

    with love,

    alma.

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  2. That generation gave us a good inheritance. I hope we can leave one that is as good for ours. Thanks for sharing.

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  3. Sylvia Johnston SpencerMay 22, 2011 at 8:22 AM

    Hi Gerry,
    Just catching up on your writings...it was great to see all those pictures. I was happy to see your parents had such a wonderful celebration on their 50th...it was a testament to how people felt about them. I bet Frank was in his glory to sing for them. I loved hearing him sing.
    Will be looking forward to your next writing.
    Sylvia

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  4. dear gerry,

    Re Alma's recent funeral mass:

    Your beautiful and powerful Irish Gaelic Hail Mary, delivered at the service will never be forgotten.

    It was Mum's favorite prayer and she wanted YOU to say it. You did it for ALL to hear with love, sincerity and that special connection that goes back generations.

    The Scotts & the Butlers thank you again for your priceless gift to Mum.

    Ad multos annos!

    dickie.

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  5. Hi l'il brother ,
    It was indeed an unforgetable honour and privilege to stand up there and address our Blessed Mother in your Mum's name and especially at her request. I hadn't felt that close to God in almost 43 years. And yes , Dickie , our two families have close , deep-rooted ties that , in some ways , outshine regular blood relationships ....

    Ad multos et fecundos annos right back at you ,
    Gerry

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    1. Dear Gerry,

      As Josie & Alma always said (and lived): Keep the Faith!

      We have our "marching orders", don't we?

      Slainte!

      dickie.

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  6. Hi Dickie,
    I got my first "marching orders" 19 years ago when my Mom crossed over .... and I was overdue for a renewal. Your sweet Mum gave me that chance for which I shall be forever grateful. So I guess both of us had better keep in step ... left-right , left-right , left- ..........
    Slán fo fóill , a dheartháir bheag !
    Gerry

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    1. Hi Gerry,

      I'm very sure that our "marching orders" came down shortly after our sainted Mums gave us birth. They were of the "old school" and knew what was best for their boys!

      I know they're in a good place with Tanker & Scotty in tow, but their presence will ALWAYS be with us ... they just wouldn't have it any other way.

      Slainte!

      dickie.

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    2. Hi Gerry,

      I just want to document Mum's little bequest to you which I was delighted to place in your hands. That was the way she wanted it done - directly to you.

      I think we ("her boys") know and feel the deep love and faith those Irish beads reflect. Mum had placed special importance on "her Gerard" being the recipient.

      Why does Ad Multos Annos seem to follow us?

      Slainte!

      dickie.

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  7. Yo Dickie ,
    You can only imagine my great joy that your dear Mom would will her beloved Irish rosary to me thus dubbing me "guardian of the beads" , an honour I shall cherish until my dying day.I loved your Mom and felt her love in return. Between 1962 and 2008 I never once came home without dropping by 144 Lansdowne where I always got a warm , filial welcome .... sometimes stopping at your place before heading up Pokiok way.
    The level of faith , hope and charity our parents possessed and lived in their daily goings and comings in something I can only aspire to ... strive to attain ... who knows ? .... the guardian of the beads might some day soon be known as "teller" of the beads.

    Slán go fóill , li'l brother ,
    Gerry

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    1. Thank you Gerry.

      Your visits to Lansdowne and later, the Church Home were always special times for Mum.

      Over the years, she followed your career - wherever it took you - and always spoke with pride about your many accomplishments!

      She told me once years ago, that "Gerard will come back home one day - to stay".

      She was right again.

      dickie.

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